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Domestic Disputes During Football Season in Illinois

A husband and wife who have been married for 15 years have been arguing more than usual lately. The pandemic put pressure on them, and the stress of working long hours while trying to raise three kids has taken a toll on their marriage. The wife decides that she would like to finally go back to school and finish her master's degree to apply for a promotion at work. Her husband agrees that he will help with the children so she can attend her classes, complete her assignments, and succeed at finishing her degree.

However, as football season approaches, her husband starts to avoid his responsibilities taking care of the children so she can study. Instead, he leaves to go watch games with his friends. One night, the wife decides she has had enough. After he comes home drunk while she has been trying without success to study all night, she snaps and throws a hand weight at his head. She calls 911 because he is bleeding profusely, and she is eventually charged with domestic violence.

What Happens When the Victim Does Not Want to Press Charges?

Once the husband sobers up and receives medical care, he realizes what happened. He is angry, but the couple decides that they want to try to get help and work on their marriage. Can the wife still face domestic violence charges, even though the husband does not want her to be prosecuted? The answer is yes, although it is less likely that prosecutors will press charges when the family member who is the victim does not want to cooperate. Ultimately, prosecutors represent the state of Illinois and have the final say in which cases they pursue.

What Happens After a Domestic Violence Charge in Illinois?

Every year, people find themselves facing domestic violence charges. An argument can become violent in the heat of a moment, especially when discussing difficult and emotional subjects. In Illinois, when someone is arrested for domestic violence, the charge is called a domestic battery. The defendant will be taken before the judge, who will order the defendant to stop contacting the victim.

By law, the judge must order that the defendant have no contact with the alleged victim for at least 72 hours. Even if the alleged victim and the perpetrator have made up and are on good terms, this is the case. The defendant will not be able to communicate or contact the victim at all during the 72 hours. If the defendant violates the no contact order, he or she will face additional criminal penalties.

Additionally, the defendant will not be able to remain in the victim's residence during that time. The judge can choose to extend this prohibition beyond 72 hours and order no contact until the case is resolved. The victim's attorney and the prosecutor will begin negotiating, and if the case is not dismissed and the defendant does not accept a plea bargain, the case will go to trial.

Discuss Your Domestic Violence Case With a Skilled Lawyer

At Glasgow & Olsson, our award-winning criminal defense lawyers have a proven track record of success in many high-profile state and federal criminal cases. Contact Glasgow & Olsson today to schedule your initial consultation to learn how our legal team can fight for your rights if you have been wrongfully charged with domestic battery.

Four Personality Conflicts That Cause Divorce

A man and woman living and working in Chicago are delighted that they were finally able to have their wedding this summer. The wife, who comes from a long line of successful bankers, hosted her wedding at her family’s stunning lake home in the Village of Tower Lakes. The setting is less than 40 miles from downtown Chicago, and her family home is located on a scenic private lake totaling over 85 acres. She hopes to live in the Village of Tower Lakes permanently one day, especially after having children. She and her husband breathed a sigh of relief after the wedding.

That relief did not last long, though. As soon as they got back to their downtown condo, they began fighting. It seems that while focusing on having to move their wedding due to COVID, they grew apart from each other. They make it past their first anniversary, then decide that it is time to pull the plug on a marriage that never should have happened. Looking back, the wife realizes that she and her soon-to-be ex-husband had serious personality conflicts. They are not alone. Some people get divorced after years of marriage because their personalities are incompatible. We will discuss some of the personality conflicts that can cause divorce below.

Playing it Safe vs. Adventurous

If you enjoy the comforts of familiar activities and places, it may be difficult to remain married to someone with an adventurous spirit. Adventurers like to try new experiences. The adventure may successfully coax the play-it-safe person out of his or her comfort zone. However, as they grow older, the play-it-safe individual will probably pursue a structured and quiet life, with which an adventurer cannot be content.

Dominance vs. Agreeableness

When one person in the relationship is agreeable and willing to sacrifice his or her needs for the other person, and the other person is dominant, marital conflict will happen. The dominant spouse will dictate what the couple will do, financial decisions, and everything else in the relationship, while the agreeable spouse will stay quiet and consent to keep the peace. The agreeable spouse often becomes resentful overtime for being taken advantage of and not being given enough respect.

Impulsive vs. Organized

Some people like to live in the moment and enjoy making impulsive decisions, which they find fun. Other people like to have a structure in their lives and remain organized. The organized person may begin to see the impulsive person as irresponsible. Conversely, the impulsive person may begin to grow frustrated with the organized person, thinking they are dull or rigid.

Introversion vs. Extroversion

Many people can make a marriage with an extrovert and introvert work successfully. However, many divorces are caused by one person enjoying going out while the other person prefers to stay home. Introverts need time to recharge by themselves, while extroverts get energy from being around other people. Trying to manage these two needs in the same marriage can lead to conflict and fighting.

Discuss Your Divorce With an Experienced Cook County Lawyer

If you need representation for a divorce or child support matter in Cook County, Glasgow & Olsson is here to help. When you need an attorney, experience matters. Contact us today to learn how our experience can get you the results you deserve.

Tips for Divorce After Retirement

After working extremely long hours at a law firm while raising two kids, a Chicago woman is ready to retire. She has been dreaming of moving out of the city to Tower Lakes, Illinois. Knowing Tower Lakes has been ranked one of Illinois’s best places to live, she is looking forward to the rural feel. Walking along the lake through the trees will help her finally de-stress and take better care of her health. Her husband is also looking forward to retiring. After they move into a lakeside home in Tower Lakes, they begin spending their days together without distractions.

At first, they enjoyed making up for all the lost time they spent away from each other while they both worked demanding jobs. However, as the months go by, they start to realize that they have grown apart and do not have many shared interests anymore. Eventually, they decide that they would rather live their retirement years separately and file for divorce.

Be Financially Prepared

It is impossible to prepare fully for a divorce, especially if you have been married for a long time. If you are in your retirement years, there may be some financial advantages. You had decades to save, and the financial burden of divorce can be more easily met. On the other hand, there are tax advantages to being married, and carrying the full burden of rent, mortgage, living expenses, and insurance can be difficult after your divorce.

Embrace Your New Life

Divorce can be a devastating process during retirement, even if you are both in agreement that you need to get divorced. One of the best things you can do is to spend time thinking about your new life. Try to visualize being contentedly single during your retirement years and all of the activities you would like to pursue.

Anticipate Dividing Your Assets

Illinois is not a community property state, and judges will not simply divide your assets in a 50/50 split. Instead, judges must try to divide the spouse's assets fairly and equitably. However, it is more likely that a judge will divide your marital assets in half if you have been married for a long time. Remember that your debt will not be exempt from being divided between you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse. If you have earned significant assets, it is wise to work with a financial planner during your divorce.

Understand What Happens With Your Retirement Accounts in Divorce

Your home and 401(k) may be your most valuable assets as a retired individual. There are several ways you and your spouse can divide your retirement assets. You may split the retirement account, which is complicated. You may decide to liquidate the account and divide up the critical assets. Another option is to allow one spouse to keep something of value to the 401(k) assets. Other couples decide to allow one spouse to have the house and one spouse to have the 401(k). If you are unable to negotiate how to divide your assets, a court will step in and decide.

Speak to a Divorce Lawyer

If you need representation for a retirement divorce in Cook County, Glasgow & Olsson is here to help. When you need an attorney, experience matters. Contact us today to learn how our experience can get you the results you deserve.